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Monday, March 14, 2011

identity crisis

I continually struggle with who I am. Not in a mental way (thank heavens!), but in a how-I-portray-myself-to-the-world-way.

I recently dipped into twitterland again and I noticed that many of the people I follow have something in common. Their little bios invariably start with "I am a writer . . . ".

When I start an introduction with that phrase I frequently stop and think, "but that's not the only way I identify myself!" When I think of "me" I don't automatically think of writer. Writing is something I do, not who I am.

Is that wrong? Does that mean I'm less of a writer for not automatically identifying myself that way? Am I not as committed to being an authoress?

I know that I am in this publishing thing for the long haul, and that I have more writing in me beyond this book. So I don't think it's a question of commitment to the art of the written word.

I have many "titles" that I wear proudly: mom, artist, wife, writer, business owner. I have different blogs and websites for several of those roles. Why can't I merge them as one, figuratively and literally?

I think part of the reason is that the audiences to my various endeavors are not all the same, and what one group is interested in, another won't be. Not everyone has as many schizophrenic interests as I do. Perhaps if I was charismatic enough I could make all sides of me interesting to everyone. But until that happens . . .

How about you? I think the followers of this blog are without exception all "writers". I'd like to hear about how you identify yourself in everyday life. If "writer" comes to mind first I'd like to hear about that, too. Did it happen gradually? Is it automatic? Do you consistently introduce yourself that way?


Bish Denham said...

I'm a human being first and female second. What follows after that would be long list that includes (but is not limited to) wife, sister, friend, U. S. citizen, Scot/English/French, West Indian and somewhere in there, writer.

Stephanie said...

There's a lot to me too..... It's hard. Those bios are so short and what do you start with? I guess it depends ont he venue. For Twitter and my FB fan page, yeah, those are there to interact with other writers and fans, possibly agents, publishers, etc... So I do want to be known as a writer/author there. Other places, I'm known first by some other title. I have Disney World blog and participate in a Disney message those places I am a Disney planner extraordinaire!

Joy said...

I don't know how I see myself summed up in a few words. This has made me take pause - and will continue to think about!

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